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Lending each other different things is a completely normal matter and shows trust and kindness. What to do, however, if the things we borrow do not want to return to us for long? Here's the problem, because it's something else to claim for a stranger (it's much easier for us to come), it's much worse with our good friends, whom we're often afraid to expose. Especially when it comes to money ... Here are some tips on how to make your borrowed items back - effectively and without harshness.

First of all, realize that the thing you borrowed is yours and you have the right to pick it up at any time. Of course, you also need to feel enough that if it is completely unnecessary at the moment, and someone else is saving life, do not turn into a monster to request its return. Show some empathy and let it run until you do not need it anymore, if it is not needed for you. If this is a bit prolonged, after a while, ask what the person has done and whether he still wants to keep what you have lent. Often in such situations, it turns out that people simply forget that they should give something to someone - either they really forget, or pretend to forget, hoping that you will not ask for it. Do not go into it, do not speculate, do not worry about it anymore, but do not be afraid to ask what is happening to your thing. In fact, the embarrassment of this situation should be on the side of the other person, not yours!

Ideally, if you write on a piece of paper, in a separate place, to whom and when you borrowed. You will avoid the situation in which you start to think, where you left off, call your friends with questions, rely on intuition, etc. What is worse, each of them can be misleading you. Avoid this and write everything down.

Gently with money! You can borrow larger amounts only to those to whom you really trust. Remember, however, that you can never give the proverbial hand to anyone, so know that even your greatest friend, even if not out of spite and anger, may not give you money on time, but simply because it will unexpectedly turn out to be completely broke and you have to understand it if you're his friend. From the beginning, set clear terms and remind yourself from time to time that you would like a refund soon. You do not have to do it "brutally", but gently, for example, you need, because you want to sign up for a new course, and you have no place to borrow, you will not get payouts, etc.

Pay special attention to those who you know that not once, not two have failed to fulfill their promises and bore trust in yourself or someone from your friends. It is difficult in such cases that such a person will change in this respect within a short period of time, so think about whether it is worth risking. When it comes to an extremely valuable thing for you, maybe it is better to say directly that you are afraid that she will not come back to you in the same state in which she "passed away" from you? Avoid lies, always put your coffee on the bench. For lies are always short legs , and then the clash and exposure of the other person masonry.